I am happy to share three things that are easy to apply and can certainly support your healing process a great deal. I also feel the need to start with a disclaimer as the personal development work can go extremely fast or can take longer. This has mainly to do with really delicate balances that need adjustment and healing inside each of us and that is often not that easy to assess upfront, not even by the most experienced professional. I have seen so often people heal much faster than I thought possible and others show sign of deep wound also after a lot of good healing work. We are not all the same and feeling safe starts with appreciating who we are, the way we are and whatever this may mean.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe.
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Photo by M.T ElGassier on Unsplash Fear is a completely natural response to danger.
Fear is the way our organism protect us from imminent peril. Fear is healthy. Fear is a response to threat, to protect us, to warn us. Why, then, are we afraid of speaking up when there is no threat? Why are we afraid to do what we like, to make ourself visible, without any danger in sight? Why are we afraid to follow our intuition? These questions are just to stimulate an healthy reflection that hopefully will take you out of your fight, flight or freeze response for a moment. I wrote three episodes about overcoming limitations, fear and negative thinking, it is time for a different taste. This is about desires, plans, ambitions, dreams. I suggest that you run through the wheel of life and make an inventory of all that you desire, envision and long for in each of the area of the wheel.
Working at our personal development and activating our energy to grow, expand and create, inevitably comes with resistances of different kind. I already wrote about the inner critic and how to change the relationship we have with this part of ourselves.
Here I would like to share another really gentle and effective way to work with resistance. Specifically when we notice our resistances in the form of believes, recurring thoughts or convictions. The work of Byron Katie is extremely simple and in its simplicity so deep and impactful. It is all about answering four simple questions: Even if it will not be an immediate transformation, it is important that the decision to eventually make the transformation is taken with a certain amount of energy.
What the discovery of the inner critic has brought to light is the realization that we can live in a world ruled by doubts and fears. In this inner critic dominated world we can live a life of self-imposed limitations geared to make us feel safe, secure and, protected. Someone would call this a reptile mindset because dominated by the working of the reptilian brain. Photo by John Moeses Bauan on Unsplash Which doubts do you expect to experience in your journey of revisiting your life?
Let’s be honest, fear, doubts probably accompanied by inner insecurity and inner criticism are pretty much inevitable. For this reason it is not useful to pretend they are not there, on the contrary, it is important to look them in the eyes. If we pretend they are not there we may end up investing so much energy in keeping them at bay, that pursuing our goals, projects and dreams will seem an unrealistic and tiring pursue. We won’t have any energy left to do what we really want to do. Fill in the wheel of life and find out how you are doing right now. Make a picture of yourself in the here and now.
The reason this is all so important, and believe me it is, is mainly because you are important. I will explain you later in more details what I mean, for now I will start by giving you something to reflect on.
Whatever you believe is the force behind the creation of everything, from galaxies to human beings, why do you believe that force wanted you to be born and live to do all that you have already been doing? Stay on that for a while. Don’t try to find an answer as some questions, the best questions, are meant to activate you, to take you somewhere new and expansive inside of yourself. Let this question take you to that new and expansive place and notice what happens. (You may also want to write down the reflections that will come up for you as they may be quite insightful) One of the most simple and at the same time most beautiful way you can meditate, contemplate and spend some seriously quality time with yourself, is by listening music or other peculiar sounds able to evoke connection. Just sit comfortably and listen. I am going to share some of my favourites music & sound video from youtube. There may be some interruption due to advertisment, I am sorry for that, you may decide to search the same music or sound on other sources that avoind ads. Please let me know how your experience of this way of meditating and how it is affecting you. |
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