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![]() I found out this morning that today is ‘blue Monday’, according to Wikipedia: Blue Monday is the name given to a day in January (typically the third Monday of the month) said by a UK travel company, Sky Travel, to be the most depressing day of the year. The concept was first published in a 2005 press release from the company, which claimed to have calculated the date using an "equation". It takes into account weather conditions and thus only applies to the Northern Hemisphere. Some have dismissed the idea as pseudoscience. It feels appropriate to me to dismiss the idea of one blue Monday, because, even if there can be a validity to this specific day being particularly gloomy, I am sure the blues will not be over tomorrow and did not start this morning. This day can be best taken as a reminder that depression at all level of intensity is real, it is happening to many and in the winter grey days can make it even worst. Accidentally I was in town this morning and I noticed a couple of things that I connect to ‘blue Monday’ one is good, one is great and one is worrisome. Let’s start from the worst and build up. ![]() It is the beginning of a new year and traditionally we all thing of new years resolutions: things we want to do differently or achieve this year, things we will finally start or that we will at least finish. What if instead of setting yourself up for almost certain failure by making a long list of new year's resolutions, you just chose one thing to focus on this year? I myself have a lot of experience with setting new year's resolutions and consistently failing to do and achieve what I had planned at the beginning of the year. It becomes demotivating over time because you know what will happen in the end. You also know that it's not because you're not trying hard enough, there's always a lot more that gets in the way, and it's not even a matter of choosing the wrong things to focus on because you really want to achieve everything on your new year's resolution list every year. In fact, I think there's something different going on and I've decided to try something different this year that I'd like to share with you. We all have an inner child inside us, however, most of us are not really in touch with our inner child.
If you feel like you don't have full access to your personal power, creativity and joy of living, this could also be the case for you. This visualization is initially inspired by the work of an Italian psychiatrist, Erica Poli, and enriched over the years with details inspired by new experiences about what the inner child needs. I have been using this visualization with clients for about six years and since I have received consistently positive feedback about its effect, I decided to create a new and improved version and make it available on this channel. Have you ever seen one of the pictures here above on social media? There are different version of the same, but the message is one, you can replace therapy with travelling.
As a therapist I can say that I have anecdotal evidence of that. I have often seen an increase in wellbeing in clients simply due to good season and the prospect of an trip. In 2022 the first season of 'Another self' came out on Netflix and, with no ecception, everybody from the family constellation circles applauded it. Especially how they portrey systemic work in the series stroke a cord in many.
I am happy to share three things that are easy to apply and can certainly support your healing process a great deal. I also feel the need to start with a disclaimer as the personal development work can go extremely fast or can take longer. This has mainly to do with really delicate balances that need adjustment and healing inside each of us and that is often not that easy to assess upfront, not even by the most experienced professional. I have seen so often people heal much faster than I thought possible and others show sign of deep wound also after a lot of good healing work. We are not all the same and feeling safe starts with appreciating who we are, the way we are and whatever this may mean.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe. Photo by M.T ElGassier on Unsplash Fear is a completely natural response to danger.
Fear is the way our organism protect us from imminent peril. Fear is healthy. Fear is a response to threat, to protect us, to warn us. Why, then, are we afraid of speaking up when there is no threat? Why are we afraid to do what we like, to make ourself visible, without any danger in sight? Why are we afraid to follow our intuition? These questions are just to stimulate an healthy reflection that hopefully will take you out of your fight, flight or freeze response for a moment. I wrote three episodes about overcoming limitations, fear and negative thinking, it is time for a different taste. This is about desires, plans, ambitions, dreams. I suggest that you run through the wheel of life and make an inventory of all that you desire, envision and long for in each of the area of the wheel.
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