It is all about life - BLOG

What is your favorite way to avoid problems?

10/10/2019

In this video blog, I used the word 'problem' an outrageous number of times. Forgive me for that and allow me to add something to it.

I have learned in the corporate environment that the word 'problem' has a negative connotation and therefore is better left out in favor of words like 'challenge'.

However, having a problem and having a challenge are two different things, and having a problem is a bigger issue than having a challenge, in my humble opinion.

This video is geared to those experiencing problems and struggling with it. Especially those calling their problem 'challenges' could benefit from the activity I suggest in the video.

The wheel of life for the exercise

How are you? What do you need?

10/6/2019

The wheel of life

This wheel of life is actually more of a flower than a wheel. This is my interpretation of the wheel of life, I made it my own: softer, more fluid and adaptable. I believe this version will serve you well.

Few really good reasons to meditate

7/13/2019

This is me meditating in Spain on top om Mount Jeroni

I want to share just a few reasons why it could be a good idea for you to meditate. I choose not to flaunt a big number of reasons why you should meditate and read this article about mediating because it seems a contradiction.

Meditation is a lot about stepping out of the rat race, while competing for the biggest number of good reasons to meditate to put in the title of the article, feels like a rat race.

I actually have really few reasons to meditate myself and they are more than enough because they are really good, really relevant for me and really transformative.

I’ll list them here below and as I write I’m not sure yet how many they will be, but I promise they will be good, relevant and transformative reasons.
Disclaimer: don’t believe anything I say or write. Try it yourself, research it, discover what works for you.

The Italian Spiritual Expat Therapist

7/6/2019

This is the 8th message that I send out since I decided to stay in weekly contact with you.
In the tradition of the Native American, the number 8 is associated with the spider that is a symbol for the infinite possibilities of creation, the weaving of dreams before they become manifest, and for our infinite power to create new, never thought before, forms in our life.

‘If we are not decisive enough about changing our lots in life, we may end up being consumed by our fear and limitations’. (Quote from ‘Medicine Cards: the discovery of power through the ways of animals’ by Jamie Sams & David Carson)

I feel strongly that the 8th edition of this weekly message is inviting me to review what I’m doing, why I’m doing it and ultimately how am I doing it. A stubborn spider I found on my pillow a few nights ago (see photo), made sure I was getting this message.

What I am doing is showing up as a therapist for those who want to heal: legend has it that there are a lot of people that suffer and are looking for relief and us therapists have a duty to switch on our light so that who is looking for help can find us.
Why am I working as a therapist? Because I love being present, holding space and being an instrument of healing for people that want to feel, to heal, to move forward and dare greatly.
How I’m filling in these messages will change regularly, as I change regularly. While at the same time retaining its essence just as I do.

MAKING DIFFICULT DECISIONS

6/29/2019

How to get unstuck when you are facing a decision that is made difficult by the influence of other people opinions

What if nobody was watching?

6/19/2019

Well, there is, in fact, still an eye watching ...

Nobody's watching means you can make all the mistakes humanly imaginable and the only consequence is learning something.

Nobody's watching means that you are free to desire what you really want and enjoy it fully.

Nobody's watching means shame is recycled to become deep contact with yourself.

Nobody's watching means guilt become the opportunity to connect deeply with others.

Guided Meditation: Surrender, Relax, Let go, Recharge the Batteries

6/16/2019

If you focus on yourself, on your essence:
what do you need to let go to be able to blossom?

Meditate with this guided meditation to come closer to your unique answer to this important question.

SELF-CONFIDENCE IN PROBLEM-SOLVING: facts vs feelings

6/8/2019

When we have a problem, we often talk about it, we tell the story. The goal we try to achieve is to find a solution, we hope that the unfolding of the story as we tell it to someone else, will reveal the solution or at least give us relief.

However, the results of this strategy are often disappointing, we hardly ever come to a solution, we may feel better believing it was not our fault, but nothing more than that. Fortunately, there is another way to approach problems that give more results: focusing on feeling the emotions.ragraph.

SELF-CONFIDENCE: 4 ways to grow it in the relationship with yourself

6/1/2019

Knowing, acknowledging and feeling deep inside that you are good enough and that you are not to be compared with anyone else. This is the essence of self-confidence.

How do you work towards feeling more and more that powerfully connected with yourself?

3 sort of Conflicts to Avoid

5/23/2019

Usually, the message is: “when you have self-confidence you do not avoid conflict, you embrace them!” and sure enough I will share the same message in future articles because it is true, most of the times.

However, there are situations where the conflict is not really a conflict or the conflict is not where you think it is, or the conflict is what you think it is, but you are not in it.

These are situations in which you can better avoid getting into the conflict. Where your Self-Confidence is measured not from your ability to embrace the conflict, but from your capacity to pick your battles wisely and appropriately. And I will tell you more about each of these situations, how to recognize them and what to do to respond with Self-Confidence to them in a couple of paragraphs.