Many believe the balance is achieved by staying away from the opposites. By standing still and neutral in front of a polarization. I believed it too and tried so hard for so long to achieve that standard and then I discovered that it doesn't work.
I literally mean that the 'balance game' doesn't work like that. Is actually the opposite movement that will achieve the result of bringing you into balance.
To achieve balance you need to know the two extremes you are trying to balance. Balance requires that you sweat the tension between the two opposites polarities. Only starting from the exploration of the unbalance, can you reach balance, a real neutrality that doesn't feel like distance and disinterest.
If you are in a conflict or in charge to mediate one, you may use this information. You have two opposite sides and you need to be neutral or to find a balance to be able to move forward.
First you need to understand what each side really stands for, needs, want to express. Only then you can assume a neutral position. When you understand what is actually going on under the surface, your neutral position has body and authority because you are not just faking it, you are actually a neutral mediator who understands both positions, however, is not involved emotionally.
Another example we can all relate to is when you have to take a decision and you feel pulled between two options. You are, in this case, emotionally involved and exploring the polarities can be a bit more challenging, however, it is possible.
In this case, as in the previous one, even if this is much more personal, it is possible to explore the two opposite options and understand on a deeper level what is going on. By doing this you acquire a deeper understanding of what is actually hidden behind the emotions that are often the more external layer of the polarisation.
When you understand what is actually playing a role on a deeper level you are already taking a more neutral stand. Now you feel understanding for both sides and their motivation that on its own is a balanced state.
Balance is found in the dance with the extremes. If you are prepared to dance with the opposites, you are ready to achieve balance.
Another good example of an area where many look for more balance is in the relationship with their body. The disbalanced is often experienced around eating too much and moving too little. Imagine taking these two extremes and understanding better what they hide.
What is the emotional gain of eating too much? Which sensation is provided by eating? Is there may be a comfort relationship with food? If so, why the need for comfort? What else is actually going on?
Moving too little? How do you feel when you move more? What do you miss when you move more? What do you need to let go to move more?
By investigating the depth of the opposites you reach a balanced centered that looks without judgment, just to understand. From this balanced place you can actually find solutions.
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