Therapy aimed to realize desires

Every revolution starts with a crazy thought, let’s try an inner revolution!
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What if the solution to any problem is found in focusing on desire?

The amazing people I meet in my therapy practice are often prepared to go through pain to solve their problem, stop doing what they are doing wrong, recover from what feels sickening.

When they have just finished telling me everything about their problems and I start to ask what they want, what they desire, how they want to feel … let’s just say there have been some surprised faces. I’m happy to report that things are changing, we are becoming a movement and you can join in.
It is becoming normal, reassuring and uplifting to talk about the desired outcome in the same conversation where an issue is presented.
 
Traditionally we go to therapy because we have a problem and we get a diagnosis based on what is wrong with us and then we know if we are depressed, anxious, traumatized or else.
What I'm suggesting here is to reverse this process upside down and to look at desires instead of problems and to focus on what we have in house (talents, resources, etc.) instead of shortcomings.
 
The solution to the problem is then motivated by the excitement of the desired result. You are happy to work on yourself because you are looking forward to achieving your goal.
You become more and more aware of what are your talents and resources and find ways to apply them towards your desired end.

“Every problem is an opportunity in disguise”

You can really say that you look at your current problem as the starting point of a journey that will take you to achieve a situation you wish for yourself.

You can literally consider the issue at hand as a reminder that you actually want something different from what you have now, that you are ready for a change.

Change becomes then a choice to be happier instead of a sentence to work hard.
This feels like taking back the control of your life.  It starts from discovering your desires and creating increasingly more space in your life for them to be realized.

In the process you learn to acknowledge and value your existing talents and resources; think here at both internal resources: personality traits and talents for instance and external resources: your environment and the way it can support you.

At this point the situation you are experiencing as a problem is an obstacle to face on the way to the realization of your desire. However, you feel strong of all the resources and talents you discovered in yourself and you are so deeply motivated by what you want to achieve.

That is why you are looking forward to facing it and deal with it once and for all, because you know you have it in you and you know what the prize is at the end of the journey, you designed the prize yourself 😉.

Doesn’t this desired focused approach sound much better than the problem-focused approach we are used to?
The best way to know if this is for you is to try it.

You’ll realize pretty fast if this is the way you want to solve the situation that is bothering you at the moment.

Ask for a complementary first session to discover what we can achieve together, write me a message to:
info@itisallaboutlife.eu