In 2022 the first season of 'Another self' came out on Netflix and, with no ecception, everybody from the family constellation circles applauded it. Especially how they portrey systemic work in the series stroke a cord in many. 

I am happy to share three things that are easy to apply and can certainly support your healing process a great deal. I also feel the need to start with a disclaimer as the personal development work can go extremely fast or can take longer. This has mainly to do with really delicate balances that need adjustment and healing inside each of us and that is often not that easy to assess upfront, not even by the most experienced professional. I have seen so often people heal much faster than I thought possible and others show sign of deep wound also after a lot of good healing work. We are not all the same and feeling safe starts with appreciating who we are, the way we are and whatever this may mean.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe. 

Fear is a completely natural response to danger.
Fear is the way our organism protect us from imminent peril.
Fear is healthy. Fear is a response to threat, to protect us, to warn us.
Why, then,  are we afraid of speaking up when there is no threat?
Why are we afraid to do what we like, to make ourself visible, without any danger in sight?
Why are we afraid to follow our intuition?
These questions are just to stimulate an healthy reflection that hopefully will take you out of your fight, flight or freeze response for a moment.

Even if it will not be an immediate transformation, it is important that the decision to eventually make the transformation is taken with a certain amount of energy.
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What the discovery of the inner critic has brought to light is the realization that we can live in a world ruled by doubts and fears. In this inner critic dominated world we can live a life of self-imposed limitations geared to make us feel safe, secure and, protected. Someone would call this a reptile mindset because dominated by the working of the reptilian brain.

Which doubts do you expect to experience in your journey of revisiting your life?

Let’s be honest, fear, doubts probably accompanied by inner insecurity and inner criticism are pretty much inevitable. For this reason it is not useful to pretend they are not there, on the contrary, it is important to look them in the eyes. If we pretend they are not there we may end up investing so much energy in keeping them at bay, that pursuing our goals, projects and dreams will seem an unrealistic and tiring pursue. We won’t have any energy left to do what we really want to do.