It is the beginning of a new year and traditionally we all thing of new years resolutions: things we want to do differently or achieve this year, things we will finally start or that we will at least finish.
What if instead of setting yourself up for almost certain failure by making a long list of new year's resolutions, you just chose one thing to focus on this year?
 
I myself have a lot of experience with setting new year's resolutions and consistently failing to do and achieve what I had planned at the beginning of the year.
It becomes demotivating over time because you know what will happen in the end. You also know that it's not because you're not trying hard enough, there's always a lot more that gets in the way, and it's not even a matter of choosing the wrong things to focus on because you really want to achieve everything on your new year's resolution list every year.
In fact, I think there's something different going on and I've decided to try something different this year that I'd like to share with you.
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We all have an inner child inside us, however, most of us are not really in touch with our inner child.
If you feel like you don't have full access to your personal power, creativity and joy of living, this could also be the case for you.
This visualization is initially inspired by the work of an Italian psychiatrist, Erica Poli, and enriched over the years with details inspired by new experiences about what the inner child needs.
I have been using this visualization with clients for about six years and since I have received consistently positive feedback about its effect, I decided to create a new and improved version and make it available on this channel.

In 2022 the first season of 'Another self' came out on Netflix and, with no ecception, everybody from the family constellation circles applauded it. Especially how they portrey systemic work in the series stroke a cord in many. 

I am happy to share three things that are easy to apply and can certainly support your healing process a great deal. I also feel the need to start with a disclaimer as the personal development work can go extremely fast or can take longer. This has mainly to do with really delicate balances that need adjustment and healing inside each of us and that is often not that easy to assess upfront, not even by the most experienced professional. I have seen so often people heal much faster than I thought possible and others show sign of deep wound also after a lot of good healing work. We are not all the same and feeling safe starts with appreciating who we are, the way we are and whatever this may mean.
This said, I know three ways that can help you face your fear, open your heart and heal feeling emotionally unsafe. 

Fear is a completely natural response to danger.
Fear is the way our organism protect us from imminent peril.
Fear is healthy. Fear is a response to threat, to protect us, to warn us.
Why, then,  are we afraid of speaking up when there is no threat?
Why are we afraid to do what we like, to make ourself visible, without any danger in sight?
Why are we afraid to follow our intuition?
These questions are just to stimulate an healthy reflection that hopefully will take you out of your fight, flight or freeze response for a moment.

Even if it will not be an immediate transformation, it is important that the decision to eventually make the transformation is taken with a certain amount of energy.
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What the discovery of the inner critic has brought to light is the realization that we can live in a world ruled by doubts and fears. In this inner critic dominated world we can live a life of self-imposed limitations geared to make us feel safe, secure and, protected. Someone would call this a reptile mindset because dominated by the working of the reptilian brain.