It is all about your life, Your Life! Episode 5

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Even if it will not be an immediate transformation, it is important that the decision to eventually make the transformation is taken with a certain amount of energy.
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What the discovery of the inner critic has brought to light is the realization that we can live in a world ruled by doubts and fears. In this inner critic dominated world we can live a life of self-imposed limitations geared to make us feel safe, secure and, protected. Someone would call this a reptile mindset because dominated by the working of the reptilian brain.

The alternative would be a life lived to catch opportunities, make experiences, bend reality and endless possibilities. This is a creative and extremely productive place, a place where ideas are born and developed. This is a space of self-expression, fulfilment, experimentation and expansion. Many would want to live in this world, nevertheless feeling they don’t manage to leave the world dominated by  the inner critic. I won’t deny it, it is indeed a tricky passage, however, from the perspective of this second mindset, also known as visionary mindset, everything is possible.

An important next step to move towards the visionary mindset, is entering in a productive dialogue with the inner critic. After having found your ground as separate entity from the inner critic, that you know now, is just a part of you, you can dialogue with it.

You have an idea
The inner critic thinks your idea is rubbish and will fail
You say something down the line of: ’I see how, from your perspective, you may think that. I freely admit that you are probably right, I may fail, maybe my idea is not perfect. However, you see, I believe I can try, give it my best shot, learn something in the process and see how it goes. Worst case scenario I will be able to say that you had warned me.’

The inner critic at this point has got nothing else to say. It was trying to protect you and it has done what it could, now its job is done and yours begins. What you can do to make this process even more profitable, is to use the feedback coming from the inner critic to refine your plan and make it even better, there may be some good point in there that you can use.

​Lara Briozzo