The theme of communication is so crucial for everybody these days. It doesn't matter if you are a professional leading people, a stay at home mother, a job seeker, a single in search of a partner, happy or unhappy in a relationship or something else in your life at the moment, you are communicating every day, all day. You communicate with your words, with your silence, with the speed of reaction with your tone and with your image.
Communication mistake to avoid
There are 3 ways you can compromise the communication without you even realizing:
1- When someone talks about themselves and their situation and you start talking about yourself in similar situation. It can feel like you are bringing the attention back to you and it can indirectly communicate that you don't care about the other and their situation or problem.
2- Unwanted help. When someone tells you about something they are going through you may feel compelled to help somehow. The key of this one is in the word 'unwanted'. Unwanted help can be as subtle as finishing the sentences of the other or giving your interpretation of what the other is going through. Beware that you are not really helping unless helped is asked.
3- Advice reflex. Some of us are much more susceptible than other. This consists in taking it on ourself to give plenty of suggestions on how to solve or improve the situation of the other, even if not asked and even if improvement itself may not being wished.
If you realize you do one or more of those mistakes, there is probably a good reason you are doing that, something from your experience that you are trying to compensate and heal. Focus on that and heal yourself first.
There are also 3 ways you can enormously boost the quality of the communication:
1- Listening actively, with attention, with the focus on what it is said as opposite to what you are going to say next.
2- Slow down, take the time to let the information find a place in your mind, being really heard and understood, connect with the other.
3- Ask question about what you have heard to understand even better, to avoid assumption, to go deeper.
You may have notice the simplicity of these 3 enhancers of the communication, hopefully this will be of encouragement to start using them in your own way and enjoy the benefits of better communication in all areas of your life.