There is a tight relationship between conflicts and fear.
Fears need to be acknowledged to make a first important step toward an healthy and healing resolution of conflicts.
Write them all down, all of your fears with regards to this one conflict you are working on. Take at least 10 minute to do that and allow yourself to dig deeper and let out also the scary thoughts.
The next step will be to shred the paper you wrote them on, to let them go. At the same time you can ask an higher power you trust, to dissolve those fears for you. This is symbolic that you don’t need to do this alone, there is always support for you available on a spiritual level.
Fears need to be seen and to be let go of. Fears need to become visible to reveal something deep, dark in you that you need to see before you move forward.
Writing them down can feel unease, shredding the paper afterwards will feel amazing, I promise!
Now that the fears have been worked at, try again and ask yourself:
How do you communicate differently when you are in contact with your heart?
To get in contact with your heart, if the question still feel difficult to answer, open up to your desires. Best way is to keep it relevant to the conflict you are thinking of.
What are your deepest, unconfessed desires when you think of that conflict? What do you really want?
You are doing this to heal and get healthier on an emotional level, keep this in mind and focus your desires on yourself, the experience you want to have in the specific situation and in contact with the people involved.
Indulge in making a list of your desires and don’t let any kind of limitation stop you from desiring big. Desiring is an activity in itself.
Desires don’t need to be possible, likely of even make any sense.
Desires are meant to be like sparkles of the soul!
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