The focus is normally on how to improve communication, what we can start doing to have better relationship.
We focus on the new, on what we still don't do or don't say.
The message here is about what we really need to stop doing if we want to save our relationship.
If the behaviors explained in the video and in the image below don't leave for good the interaction with our loved ones, there is little hope of restoring, healing, saving your relationship or reigniting any kind of intimacy.
This said, we all do, at times, some form of this behavior, we are human after all, we get tired, frustrated and angry.
The question is, can we take responsibility for what we are doing? Can we take the necessary action to make known to our partner that, when we have made that condescending or critic remarks, we were not expressing how we really feel?
Can we apologize?
Can we accept the felt apologies of the other?
Can we set our boundaries to the other and stop accepting these behavior from the other?
Sometimes the damage has been hurting so deep and for so long that you may not be sure anymore if there is a way out.
Don't do this alone if you are hurting so much, look for professional help.