THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING ALONE part 1

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When I say it is important to be alone I mean that it is important to spend time with yourself. And the time you spend sleeping counts, however is not enough. I’m talking of time alone with yourself, time of self-reflection, time to check how it is going with yourself.

As I felt that this was the topic I was going to write about I realized I never read or hear this kind of advice given to people, I am not sure why, as I know this is something really beneficial that successful people use in their life and especially happy people do, as spending quality time with yourself makes you lean towards a kind of success that is more commonly referred to as happiness, whatever that means for you.

There is something though that prevent many to actually spend time alone with themselves spontaneously. There is idea that if you are alone with yourself you are at great risk of being confronted with your darkest thoughts, fears and all sorts of negative emotions.

I will not say that this scenario is not an actual risk. When you spend time with yourself, reflecting and looking inside your thoughts and emotions, you may experience discomfort. What I will do is offer you a metaphor and ask a question.

Imagine you have an house with many rooms, (as you are a human being with many facets and aspects of personality in you), and imagine that in one of the room, you don’t know which one exactly, there could be something wrong (a negative thought or emotion). You are not sure because you have not been looking into it, however there are noises you can hear in the distance (fear of spending time alone) that until now you have more or less ignored.

The choice is between staying away from that part of the house where the noises come from and avoid discovering there is a leak in the pluming, or even worst a fire (avoid spending time alone), or you could go, find the problem and decide how to solve it (spend time with yourself, discovering what is moving inside you).

If you look at it like that you may start to see how avoiding self-reflection can be as dangerous as facing yourself. This said I also want to add that I have a lot of understanding for those moments where retrieving on your own feels too much to handle, even the most experienced in self-discovery come regularly in this place, I know I do.

However, after you took some time to allow also the ‘not being alone with yourself’, my wish for you is that you find a way back to yourself.
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You may already have a favorite way to do so, or you may attempt possible ways until you find the one you most enjoy.
 
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