Blog Posts - It is all about life

Finding Nirvana while touching rock bottom

3/23/2020

'Who are we? We are the life force power of the universe'.

As a navigate this new lifestyle that I didn't choose, I know the only sensible thing to do is to find a way to make this work for me, learn something, make the best of an improbable situation.

You could say that life gave us lemons in the form of a worldwide pandemic, shall we see how we can make lemonades?
I found inspiration in this talk about a neuroscientist having a stroke and reacting as follow:

'I had a stroke ... how cool!'

She found Nirvana while touching rock bottom and fearing for her life.

'We have the power to choose, moment by moment, who and how we want to be in the world.'

It was not an easy recovery and still, her experience, as she recalls it, is one of awakening, becoming aware of her inner power and feeling grateful for the transformative experience she had.

'I believe that the more time we spend choosing to run the deep inner peace circuitry of our right hemisphere, the more peace we will project into the world and the more peaceful our planet will be.'

Creativity as a survival tool

3/23/2020

I have been homeschooling my children for a week now and the admiration for what teachers do every day has risen to the top.

However, I realized already at the end of last week that the ball is in my court now and it will stay there for a while. I don't believe, in fact, that the world will be safe enough to send our children back to school for some time.

I then decided to take the situation in my own hands, my first decision was that I'm not going to compromise the relationship with my children to make sure they do all their homework. I choose to care more for my children to be happy than for them to be up to speed with the school program.

The second consideration was that they do need something to do all day every day, and I really don't want to turn the tablet/smartphone/computer into a virtual nanny: what am I going to do?
I realized then that some homework from school could be a lifesaver.

I'm still finding my way in this new situation, however, I do look for inspiration on how to make this unique experience a positive one for me and the one around me. This ted talk, that I watched countless time, is one of my and everybody's favorite.

The best part, in my humble opinion, is the one about the little girl drawing a picture of God. I would love for my girls to have that attitude towards life.
Hopefully, this powerful message will impact you as well and make this particular time more fruitful for you.

P.S. You don't need to have children to enjoy this talk (you have an inner child, remember? ;-)

Tips to Meditate #4: Breathing 3: With all Your Body

3/16/2020

You cannot meditate if you don't have a body, I would say that you meditate often right to get back in contact with your body and all the sensations and emotions that are active in your body.

The breathing exercises that I share here are aimed at cleansing.
The movement of energy that breathing brings along is promoting cleansing.

Cleansing, in this case, means especially purification of your energy, relaxation, letting go of all sorts of things that don't serve you anymore.

Tips to Meditate #3 Breathing 2: Breathe & Count

3/16/2020

I read in a book a really simple definition of meditation:
'meditation is simply bringing attention'.
The breathing exercises that I share here help you do exactly that, bring attention. Breathing, in its simplicity, offer the possibility to bring attention in many different ways to many different things.
In the video, that I share in this post, there are 3 exercises to deepen the use of breathing in meditation.

Tips to Meditate #2 Breathing 1: Just Breathe

3/16/2020

Meditation can be practiced for years and still evolve, develop and transform in something new.

A really powerful aspect in meditation is breathing.
So powerful is breathing that it can be on its own a form of meditation.

What I want to share here are few simple techniques that in their simplicity can work really deep in cleansing our energy, realizing deep muscular tension and help up plug into our deepest feelings.

It is a bit too complicated to write down the exercises, far too big a risk that the explanation is not clear, so I'll just show you.

Tips to Meditate #1 Music

3/16/2020

Meditation has countless advantages for our health: physical health, emotional health, and psychic health.
Who doesn't need some of all of the above raise your hands?

Meditation has made a huge impact in my life in the last 8 years and I feel honored to be able to share with you how you can start meditating, or how you can add to your current practice new ways to come in deep contact with yourself.

Today I want to share how listening to music as you sit in silence is a wonderful form of meditation.

NOTEWORTHY

- It doesn't require experience;
- Music can help to keep the attention on yourself and what happens inside of you as you listen: if you pay attention to the music you lose yourself less easily in your thoughts;
The music massages your energy and helps to relax as you sink deeper in yourself;

I would say to you: try and discover how it is for you.

POSITION

You can sit in a comfortable position, your back is straight and relaxed at the same time, your eyes are closed, your knees make a 90 degrees angle (use if necessary something under your feet). Your chin is slightly forward towards your chest, just enough to stretch your spine near your skull.
Then just put on some music.

MUSIC

I made a page on my website with different youtube videos of music I use to meditate. This is meant as a starters kit for you to develop and expand according to your liking.
Click this text to go the music to meditate page.

CONTACT

If you have a question or would like to share your experience I would be delighted to receive a message from you. My name is Lara and you can reach me at info@itisallaboutlife.eu

WEBINAR coming up

3/15/2020

HOW CAN YOU USE THE WHEEL OF LIFE TO EMBARK IN THIS JOURNEY: focus on desires as a way of solving problems?

Every revolution starts with a crazy thought, let’s try an inner revolution!
What if the solution to any problem is found in focusing on desire?

Would you like to take a completely different approach to the issues in your life? I mean an approach that uses pleasure, attraction, desire as a means to achieve goals.

To join the webinar use the facebook link below:
https://www.facebook.com/events/1541592665993058/?notif_t=aymt_upsell_tip&notif_id=1584356733719558

Therapy aimed to realize desires

1/27/2020

Every revolution starts with a crazy thought, let’s try an inner revolution!

What if the solution to any problem is found in focusing on desire?

The amazing people I meet in my therapy practice are often prepared to go through pain to solve their problem, stop doing what they are doing wrong, recover from what feels sickening.

When they have just finished telling me everything about their problems and I start to ask what they want, what they desire, how they want to feel … let’s just say there have been some surprised faces. I’m happy to report that things are changing, we are becoming a movement and you can join in.
It is becoming normal, reassuring and uplifting to talk about the desired outcome in the same conversation where an issue is presented.

Traditionally we go to therapy because we have a problem and we get a diagnosis based on what is wrong with us and then we know if we are depressed, anxious, traumatized or else.
What I'm suggesting here is to reverse this process upside down and to look at desires instead of problems and to focus on what we have in house (talents, resources, etc.) instead of shortcomings.

The solution to the problem is then motivated by the excitement of the desired result. You are happy to work on yourself because you are looking forward to achieving your goal.
You become more and more aware of what are your talents and resources and find ways to apply them towards your desired end.

“Every problem is an opportunity in disguise”

You can really say that you look at your current problem as the starting point of a journey that will take you to achieve a situation you wish for yourself.

You can literally consider the issue at hand as a reminder that you actually want something different from what you have now, that you are ready for a change.

Change becomes then a choice to be happier instead of a sentence to work hard.
This feels like taking back the control of your life. It starts from discovering your desires and creating increasingly more space in your life for them to be realized.

In the process you learn to acknowledge and value your existing talents and resources; think here at both internal resources: personality traits and talents for instance and external resources: your environment and the way it can support you.

At this point the situation you are experiencing as a problem is an obstacle to face on the way to the realization of your desire. However, you feel strong of all the resources and talents you discovered in yourself and you are so deeply motivated by what you want to achieve.

That is why you are looking forward to facing it and deal with it once and for all, because you know you have it in you and you know what the prize is at the end of the journey, you designed the prize yourself 😉.

Doesn’t this desired focused approach sound much better than the problem-focused approach we are used to?
The best way to know if this is for you is to try it.

You’ll realize pretty fast if this is the way you want to solve the situation that is bothering you at the moment.

Ask for a complementary first session to discover what we can achieve together, write me a message to:
info@itisallaboutlife.eu

How would you react if your neighbor would start drilling the wall at 7:30 am?

11/10/2019

How satisfied are you with the learning/development/growth in your life?

11/3/2019

You can look at the different areas of your life and reflect on how you feel and what you would like, what you need and what your next step is.
You may find out everything is exactly as you wish and take great pride and comfort. Well done!

You may notice trends in how you go about learning in different aspects of your life: maybe you always relay on books, maybe you have few teachers you follow on your tube, maybe you tend to look for different resources every time.

You may realize that some areas find you extremely satisfied with regards to how you are developing, growing and learning and other areas ... you never thought about developing yourself there. In this case, you found something to reflect about: do you feel like you need to change something about that?

The questions you may ask yourself to navigate and explore your experience with regards to learning, development, and growth are:

1- On a scale from 1 (extremely unsatisfied) to 10 (completely satisfied), how would you rate your satisfaction with your learning, development, and growth experience?

2- Which aspects of your experience come to mind when you answer question n. 1?

3- What do you feel you need going forward?

You can repeat this short and easy process of asking yourself these 3 questions for all the aspects of your life:
Your work situation and career
You financial situation
Your health
Your romantic relationship
Your relationship with your family
Your friendships
Your desire, pleasure, and fun

What is all boils down to is to identify what you need.
There may be something you need and that that you may have underestimated until now.